Hey everyone.

I feel the need to touch bases on something that maybe many of you are dealing with, but in particular, a blogger here on blogstream who goes by the name of NotCallie (writer of the blog, "Not The Life I'd Planned") has been going through for years. So this is a blog response to her.

For those of you who aren't familiar with NotCallie or her blog...

NotCallie's blog, "Not The Life I'd Planned" is basically about her life and how unhappy she is with the way things turned out for her. She emphasizes a lot on her broken marriage and how she's just completely lost in life. She also states she wants out of her marriage, but is just to weak to do anything about it. Same goes for her life in general. She feels disconnected from everyone and everything including God, and does't think she belongs. She just feels defeated.

Now I'm sure we've all been in a place like that before, were you feel like everything in your life has gone wrong or you just don't belong. Maybe not to the extant that NotCallie has, but somewhat similar. Being in a place or state of mind like that can really take a toll on you. It slowly breaks you down until you just lose sight of your life and the good/purpose in it. I remember starting high school and feeling like I didn't belong and just feeling misreable. Eventually I got to the point were I just gave up. I only saw the negative in people and in life, and just wanted out.

Life can be a little crazy at times and can seem to hard to handle, but "where there's a will, there's a way." When you really want to get out of a situation that you know isn't good for you anymore, YOU have to be the one to get up and start making some positive changes, cause no one else can do it for you. YOU have to take control of your life. Everything in life has a purpose and it's our jobs to figure out exactly what our specific purpose is.

You also have to learn to be strong and cut the negative aspects out of your life, including people (go read the post "Aggravation" for more on that subject). If your friend, girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband whatever, isn't treating you right anymore and you're just not happy, it's time for you to move on. It's just not a healthy situation for you to be in anymore. Move on for you, and if not you, move on for your friends and family's sake because I'm sure they don't want to see you in any type of pain or suffering.

So, to NotCallie...

I wanna encourage you to find the stregnth you need to move forward in life and start making some changes. Do it so when people think of a happy and fulfilling life, they think of you. I also wanna encourage you to talk to someone professional who can help you with some of your problems. Again, "where there's a will, there's a way" and I hope you find yours.

That goes for anyone. Post your thoughts.